STEP ONE
Courageous Living Intensive
Two hours with me, online. You leave knowing exactly what has been keeping you stuck, with a written roadmap to use on your own, with your therapist, or in the 90-Day Consultation.
$1,250
SEE THE INTENSIVECOURAGEOUS LIVING
The Identity Split
You built a good life. Now it's time to live in it as yourself.
You lead, decide and handle complexity every day. Then you get home and second-guess everything.
At work, you know exactly who you are. Everywhere else, you've been performing a version of yourself for so long you've lost track of the real one.
AS FEATURED IN
HUFFPOST
PARADE
VERYWELL MIND
BEST LIFE
THE KNOT
TINY BUDDHA
You make hard calls at work without flinching.
And then you replay a single conversation for an hour.
You noticed what didn't feel right. You talked yourself out of it. You went along with things you would never let a colleague accept.
You've done the therapy. You've read the books. You can name your attachment style.
And you're still here.
WHAT IT LOOKS LIKE
Does any of this sound like you?
AFTER WORK
You run the meeting without notes. At dinner you can't choose a restaurant until you know what everyone else wants.
AT HOME
You love your life and the people in it. And some nights you quietly wish you could get in the car and keep driving.
IN YOUR CLOSET
The clothes you actually love still have the tags on. You wear what's safe, what won't draw attention.
ON A FREE SATURDAY
You finally have nothing scheduled, and you can't sit still in it.
ON VACATION
You planned every detail, and you spend the whole trip making sure everyone else is having a good time.
WHEN SOMEONE ASKS
You say yes to the dinner, the favor, the extra project, and resent it on the drive home.
WHEN YOU WANT SOMETHING
The class, the haircut, the move, the business idea. You talk yourself out of it before anyone else has the chance.
IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS
You stay in the friendship, the relationship, the role, long after you know.
WHEN LIFE IS GOOD
The career, the home, the family are all there. And you're quietly waiting for it to be taken away, or you feel like you don't deserve it.
Different rooms. Same woman, holding herself back in all of them except one.
You didn't miss it because something is wrong with you.
You missed it because the clear, confident woman at work and the woman in the rest of your life were built in two different ways.
One learned to trust what she sees. The other learned to manage what everyone else needs.
That isn't a flaw. It's an adaptation that once kept you safe. It just doesn't have to run your life anymore.
THE FRAMEWORK
The Professional-Personal Identity Split
The same experiences that made you excellent at work often disrupted how you learned to trust yourself everywhere else.
AT WORK, YOU
Trust what you see
Set firm boundaries
Walk away when terms aren't right
Decide, and don't look back
EVERYWHERE ELSE, YOU
Explain away what you feel
Over-accommodate
Hold back what you really want
Replay it all at 2am
Your superpower and your blind spot came from the same place.
Read about the Identity SplitWORK WITH ME
Start with the Intensive.
STEP TWO
The 90-Day Consultation
Twelve one-hour sessions over 90 days, working directly from your roadmap, until you trust yourself everywhere the way you already do at work.
$7,800
SEE THE 90-DAY CONSULTATIONIt's better than the months and months of sitting in the therapist's office circling round and round with not enough feedback or insight.
HI, I'M JANICE
I was a trauma therapist who couldn't see her own patterns.
I know this split from the inside. I've spent 15 years helping women find their way back to themselves, and to become the same woman in every room.
My story
WRITING
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Why You're Not Happy (Even If Life Looks Fine)
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Why It Can Feel Lonely When You Stop Overgiving in Relationships
You have spent years being the person everyone else can count on.
This is two hours where you finally get to understand yourself.
APPLY FOR THE INTENSIVE
YOU ARE SO COURAGEOUS AND SO LOVED.